A mouth full of gum. It gets in the way and is so embarrassing if it falls into your kssing partner’s lap. In fact, it can completely ruin the moment.
Any hesitant movements. They will feel a little confused as to what you are trying to do. It will make you feel unconfident as well.
Don’t re-apply lipstick if you think you are going to kiss someone soon. It gets smeared all over your and their lips and faces and is not a good look unless you both want to end up looking like clowns. It makes it a slippery surface to work with and nobody wants the taste of lipstick when they are kissing. Yuck!
Eating onions, peanut butter (satay), garlic anything (bread, steak), and chives. Even though mints will solve the problem temporarily, later on the smell and taste will return right about when things are getting good.
Stubble! “Pash rash” hurts and can irritate your partner’s face. You’ll know when it’s too long by how it feels when you brush a hand against your cheek. You can still kiss her gently a few times if you haven’t shaved, but save a full makeout session for after you’ve shaved.
Cigarette or beer breath is unpleasant. If you need to continue drinking after having a few beers, try a few vodka and raspberries to disguise the taste, unless the other person is already intoxicated. There is nothing less attractive than someone leering at you and trying to kiss you when they smell like a brewery. The same goes for smoking. Take a breath mint after having a cigarette if you can. Otherwise, there is the likelihood that you will taste like an ashtray.
Never ever-under any circumstances-tell someone they are a bad kisser. Some people may use a different technique (faster or slower) that doesn’t suit you, but that is no excuse to criticize them. A kiss is a deeply intimate moment, and you should never trivialize the intimacy. If the person you kissed is not compatible with you, put it down to experience and move on.
If your first kiss happens to be in a bar or club, there isn’t quite as much thought involved because you probably won’t even know the other person you are kissing. The setting that you are in will have quite an effect on how your kiss goes. Follow the same hints as above if you are sitting down, but if you are on the dance floor then things will move a little quicker. You probably won’t be quite as nervous because there are people around and there is a lot of noise. If you really think the dance floor is the best place for your first kiss, beware: there is a lot of skill involved to kiss someone while dancing and people pushing you around. Be careful not to bite their tongue or clash faces.
The sad thing is that when it comes to the first kiss, it is so frightening that a lot of people miss their chance. They are so nervous that it seems easier not to do it. While the first kiss is great, it’s the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th and all the other kisses that are so fantastic because all your worries are gone and you don’t think about anything but the kiss. So it’s just the first part that is scary. As in so many situations in life, anticipation is all too often worse than reality. In a way, nervousness is a good sign, as obviously you really want this and want it to work.
You don’t have to kiss anyone until you feel ready. It has to be the right timing for you, because your nerves will double. Don’t let friends or your girlfriend/boyfriend or anyone else pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. When the time is right, you will know. On the other hand, don’t kiss the other person if they made it clear they aren’t ready. Forcing the issue won’t make them want to kiss you any sooner. You may get rejected and upset the other person.
Don’t worry about your nerves. You aren’t the only person to get nervous before a kiss. Everyone does, no matter how smooth and held together another person may seem! The person you are just about to kiss is probably just as nervous and hoping that you would hurry up and “break the ice.”
If your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty, this can also be a feeling of excitement mistaken for nerves. Just because it is expected that you will get nervous before you kiss someone, don’t just expect it will happen to you. Be confident, build yourself up, and concentrate on enjoying the moment. Don’t forget he or she is nervous too. Remember, you just have to get past this first kiss. Even halfway through this kiss, you will start to feel relieved, and then you are going to be on to bigger and better things. It’s like you have to get through the wrapper to get to the chocolate.
The rest is the delivery of the kiss that gives people that lovely feeling of butterflies. You may wonder, “What happens if I bang her nose, or bite his tongue, or what if I’m not good enough?” As long as you take it slow and don’t panic, the rest will flow. Most importantly you want to enjoy it. Even people that have been in a relationship for years still accidentally bang noses and bite their partner’s tongue. With my step-by-step guide, there is no way you will be bad. Have patience, and once you give it a try, you will get a feel for it, and kissing will start to come more naturally to you.
What if They Don’t Want to Kiss Me Back?
OK, I have a question for you. What if they do want to kiss you? More than likely they WILL want to kiss you. If you have been reading their signs correctly, then follow your instincts. I’d think that you wouldn’t have such a strong feeling of wanting to kiss someone if they hadn’t sent you any signs! Also check out the chapter on “How to Deal with Rejection.”
Any hesitant movements. They will feel a little confused as to what you are trying to do. It will make you feel unconfident as well.
Don’t re-apply lipstick if you think you are going to kiss someone soon. It gets smeared all over your and their lips and faces and is not a good look unless you both want to end up looking like clowns. It makes it a slippery surface to work with and nobody wants the taste of lipstick when they are kissing. Yuck!
Eating onions, peanut butter (satay), garlic anything (bread, steak), and chives. Even though mints will solve the problem temporarily, later on the smell and taste will return right about when things are getting good.
Stubble! “Pash rash” hurts and can irritate your partner’s face. You’ll know when it’s too long by how it feels when you brush a hand against your cheek. You can still kiss her gently a few times if you haven’t shaved, but save a full makeout session for after you’ve shaved.
Cigarette or beer breath is unpleasant. If you need to continue drinking after having a few beers, try a few vodka and raspberries to disguise the taste, unless the other person is already intoxicated. There is nothing less attractive than someone leering at you and trying to kiss you when they smell like a brewery. The same goes for smoking. Take a breath mint after having a cigarette if you can. Otherwise, there is the likelihood that you will taste like an ashtray.
Never ever-under any circumstances-tell someone they are a bad kisser. Some people may use a different technique (faster or slower) that doesn’t suit you, but that is no excuse to criticize them. A kiss is a deeply intimate moment, and you should never trivialize the intimacy. If the person you kissed is not compatible with you, put it down to experience and move on.
If your first kiss happens to be in a bar or club, there isn’t quite as much thought involved because you probably won’t even know the other person you are kissing. The setting that you are in will have quite an effect on how your kiss goes. Follow the same hints as above if you are sitting down, but if you are on the dance floor then things will move a little quicker. You probably won’t be quite as nervous because there are people around and there is a lot of noise. If you really think the dance floor is the best place for your first kiss, beware: there is a lot of skill involved to kiss someone while dancing and people pushing you around. Be careful not to bite their tongue or clash faces.
The sad thing is that when it comes to the first kiss, it is so frightening that a lot of people miss their chance. They are so nervous that it seems easier not to do it. While the first kiss is great, it’s the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th and all the other kisses that are so fantastic because all your worries are gone and you don’t think about anything but the kiss. So it’s just the first part that is scary. As in so many situations in life, anticipation is all too often worse than reality. In a way, nervousness is a good sign, as obviously you really want this and want it to work.
You don’t have to kiss anyone until you feel ready. It has to be the right timing for you, because your nerves will double. Don’t let friends or your girlfriend/boyfriend or anyone else pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. When the time is right, you will know. On the other hand, don’t kiss the other person if they made it clear they aren’t ready. Forcing the issue won’t make them want to kiss you any sooner. You may get rejected and upset the other person.
Don’t worry about your nerves. You aren’t the only person to get nervous before a kiss. Everyone does, no matter how smooth and held together another person may seem! The person you are just about to kiss is probably just as nervous and hoping that you would hurry up and “break the ice.”
If your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty, this can also be a feeling of excitement mistaken for nerves. Just because it is expected that you will get nervous before you kiss someone, don’t just expect it will happen to you. Be confident, build yourself up, and concentrate on enjoying the moment. Don’t forget he or she is nervous too. Remember, you just have to get past this first kiss. Even halfway through this kiss, you will start to feel relieved, and then you are going to be on to bigger and better things. It’s like you have to get through the wrapper to get to the chocolate.
The rest is the delivery of the kiss that gives people that lovely feeling of butterflies. You may wonder, “What happens if I bang her nose, or bite his tongue, or what if I’m not good enough?” As long as you take it slow and don’t panic, the rest will flow. Most importantly you want to enjoy it. Even people that have been in a relationship for years still accidentally bang noses and bite their partner’s tongue. With my step-by-step guide, there is no way you will be bad. Have patience, and once you give it a try, you will get a feel for it, and kissing will start to come more naturally to you.
What if They Don’t Want to Kiss Me Back?
OK, I have a question for you. What if they do want to kiss you? More than likely they WILL want to kiss you. If you have been reading their signs correctly, then follow your instincts. I’d think that you wouldn’t have such a strong feeling of wanting to kiss someone if they hadn’t sent you any signs! Also check out the chapter on “How to Deal with Rejection.”
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